Almost Rape: What I Did When He Was Tryin’ To “Take My Goods Without Askin’ For Em”!


My Story of Almost Rape and Examining the Right Time to put up a Fight

 

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I can’t say I’ve ever been raped, but boy, did I come close before.  He was tryin’ to “take my goods”!  It was almost rape and it was SUPER scary.  He was a stranger…somebody I did not know for a whole 30 minutes!

 

It happened while I was in Iraq.  I was in a war zone, but I have a way of “staying in a bubble”.  Some people would say I’m naive.  Others would say I’m gullible.  I would say I’m in my own world, and I protect it by guarding what I pay attention to.

 

I made some really good friends.  The funny thing is…many of my “really good friends” didn’t speak English.  Side note…

 

Blogging makes me laugh so much!

 

…Back to my story…

 

I went to one of my Ethiopian girlfriends’ rooms on the other side of the base–across from where my dorm room was.  It was sandy, dark, and far from where I stayed.  In “my own little world”, I did not concern myself with very important facts like how late it was, how we didn’t have street lights on the base, how I would need to catch the bus about 20-30 min. to my dorm, how I would not know the passengers on the bus, or other important things like that.

 

I had a “thing” about keeping my hair nice in the war zone, so I went to her room to get my hair braided.  The Ethiopian women in Iraq were the BOMB with 4a/b/c kinky/coily hair styles.  They micro-braided my natural hair in such a way that my hair looked like a straw set was put into it.  It was braided but each braid formed a coily, bouncy curl.  If you don’t know what a straw set is, just skim past that description, and know, I loved how the Ethiopian women did my hair!

 

 

We had SO much fun playing princess!  They let me dress up in their Ethiopian dresses, they did my make-up, and did my hair SO GOOD.  My hair was incomparable to what I find in San Antonio–where I currently live.

 

Time flew.  Before I knew it, it was so dark outside, I could not see 10 ft in front of me. The dust in Iraq floated like baby powder in the wind.  The darkness hung over like a cloud, but oddly lingered. There were no cars driving on the streets, and no people walking.  It was absent of activity outside, and I needed to go to a bus stop and wait on the bus.

 

After maybe 20 minutes or so, my bus came.  I was the only passenger.  The driver was a man from India.  We did not talk or introduce one another.  I felt VERY awkward, and I kept saying to myself, “Why didn’t I plan this out better?! What am I gonna do if…?!”.  The query of possible circumstances that rolled thru my head manifested into my reality.  I had no idea where the man was driving: if he was going the right way or the wrong way.  All I know is after about 20 minutes of riding, he stopped the bus, and began walking towards me.

 

My heart started beating.  I couldn’t understand his dialect.  He stretched his hands towards my breast.  I jumped up like a live animal in hot grease.  I knew in my mind that we were the only two out there, and I needed to fight him or let him “have my goodies”.  I said in my mind, “my goods are being saved for somebody!”, which left me with one option, I would have to fight this Indian man.

 

Many people assume rape victims have provoked the predator in some way, but I can attest to the inaccuracy of that claim.  I was fully dressed in my military ABU uniform.  I wasn’t showing ANY skin.  I didn’t attempt to entice him in anyway.  He was unprovoked in regards to seduction.  He was simply and innocently–on my part–attracted to me.  I poised myself to hit him with my M16 (rifle) if he came ANY closer.  When he saw me poised–in my “I dare you” pose–he took his hand back, and stepped back.  I could tell he wanted to bribe me, so he could keep his job, but I was p****d!

 

The next day, I was committed to making sure nobody experienced what happened to me.  I went to all my leaders.  I went to all his leaders.  I told everybody who I thought needed to know, and who they thought needed to know.  Some people acted funny, I confronted it, and moved on.  The issue escalated up to Washington D.C.  The last person I spoke with was an investigative attorney who called me from the Pentagon.  They said, “It’s a matter that must be handled diplomatically between the Indian officials and the US”.  The last I heard, he had been fired and sent back to India.  It could be true how the issue was resolved.  It may have been swept under the rug.  I may never know.

 

Takeaway…There is a time to be nice and pray with people, and there is a time to “put them fists up, buckle your hands on a pistol, and fight UGLY”.

 

With love,

 

Tiffany Domena

(*pen dropped*)

 

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